For Adults with FAMILY/FRIENDS
who have ALCOHOL/DRUG PROBLEMS
(You
can substitute"drugs" for "alcohol" if it fits
your circumstances).
Millions of people are affected by the excessive
drinking of someone close. The following questions are designed
to help you decide whether or not you need help.
Yes
No
Do
you worry about how much someone else drinks?
Yes
No
Do
you have money problems because of someone else's drinking?
Yes
No
Do
you tell lies to cover up for someone else's drinking?
Yes
No
Do
you feel that if the drinker loved you, he or she would stop drinking
to please you?
Yes
No
Do
you blame the drinker's behavior on his or her companions?
Yes
No
Are
plans frequently upset or cancelled or meals delayed because of
the drinker?
Yes
No
Do
you make threats, such as, "If you don't stop drinking, I'll
leave you"?
Yes
No
Do
you secretly try to smell the drinkers breath?
Yes
No
Are
you afraid to upset someone for fear it will set off a drinking
bout?
Yes
No
Have
you been hurt or embarrassed by a drinker's behavior?
Yes
No
Are
holidays and gatherings spoiled because of drinking?
Yes
No
Have
you considered calling the police for help in fear of abuse?
Yes
No
Do
you search for hidden alcohol?
Yes
No
Do
you often ride in a car with a driver who has been drinking?
Yes
No
Have
you refused social invitations out of fear or anxiety?
Yes
No
Do
you sometimes feel like a failure when you think of the lengths
you have gone to in order to control the drinking?
Yes
No
Do
you think that if the drinker stopped drinking, your problems would
be solved?
Yes
No
Do
you ever threaten to hurt yourself to scare the drinker?
Yes
No
Do
you feel angry, confused, or depressed most of the time?
Yes
No
Do
you feel there is no one who understands your problems?
If you have answered yes to
three or more of these questions "Al-Anon" or "Alateen"
may be able to help. You can contact them by looking in your local
telephone directory.
If you want to talk
to a professional counsellor who specializes in helping people in
distress because of family members or loved ones with alcohol or
drug problems, call us at Rideauwood (613) 724-4881.